'Mummy am I fat?'
We go about our lives, without a care in the world, the majority of us say whatever we feel like, not thinking who is listening, but those of us who have children or small people in our lives who look up to us as role models, are always watching. Now we pick up on this when we accidentally let out something that rhymes with 'duck' or add an 's' in front of hit, my 6 year olds eyes widen and mouth drops, I sometime think he's a stricter child than I am parent...so we slap our own hand say "naughty mummy, you mustn't repeat that." and go on with our everyday lives. But what about when we drop another 'f' word...fat? What about when we are trying on clothes and pointing out all (what we see as) imperfections and flaws, my bums too big...I have no boobs...why can't my waist be smaller...I've got three chins...my nose looks like a beak...I can't go out looking like this...I'm ugly. What do you think goes through their tiny developing mind when they hear you body shame yourself? They take it on board and some personalities won't pick up on it, but the majority of the time they will.
Ana Louise Bonasera, mum of 4 boys, girl power enthusiast.