There’s the age old saying of whether to trust your head or go with your heart? And when we come into challenging cross roads in our life, we often turn to this and ask ourselves whether we should go with our head or heart. In the modern world that we live in, mental health is at all time high, anxiety, depression, bipolar, and so much more. These are pressing issues which need to be taken seriously and some elements of mental health can take it’s toll on everyone.
Recently I have had high anxiety about sleeping, because I keep thinking and worrying about whether I’m going to get a full nights sleep, well I say full night I’m currently breastfeeding my 8 month old so what’s a full night sleep right? But what I mean is whether the twins are going to get a full nights sleep, we’ve been having some sleepless nights after starting their new medication. Now, this has been preventing me from having a restful nights sleep because I am too much in my own head. I am over thinking the situations that might occur, the contributing factors to why sometimes they sleep and sometimes they don’t and constantly worrying “what was that sound…are they awake?” and so on. I had began to notice the regular occurrence of these thought patterns, that I was living in this anxiety and the effect it was having on my sleep, so once I realised I was doing it, I could find a way to counter act, now it hasn’t taken the anxiety away completely but it has helped me calm and get a better night sleep. I am spending less time in my head and more time in my heart, using essential oils, saying my gratitudes and mantras before bed, even visualising a good night sleep. Sometimes they still wake up still but it’s helping me to feel more reassured, to go with the flow and calm my worrying thoughts.
Being a mum there are a million and one questions we get asked a day by our children, but I think as a mother we question ourselves x10 that amount, are we doing the right thing? How can we make this better? What am I doing wrong? etc. sometimes we just need to give ourselves a break and spend time doing things that we love. Get into your heart. Trust me, with 4 boys, one with heaps of homework and reading to do, twins with autism and an 8 month old boob monster, I know it’s tough to get time to do something you love, but whether it’s going to a class that you’re passionate about or just pampering yourself with a bubble bath and glass of fizz at home, spend more time making time for you, get out of your worry bubble and open up to what you love to do. If you don’t Captain, then the ship will be sinking with you! Don’t push yourself to breaking point, you work for yourself, your family, your business/job so much better when you’re refilling your cup too.
Stay sane and stay safe!!
With love & gratitude,
Ana Louise Bonasera
Confidence & clarity coach
Ana Louise Bonasera, mum of 4 boys, girl power enthusiast.