Person 1: You look amazing!
Demon sat on my shoulder: They’re lying.
Person 2: You have a lovely figure.
Demon: They wouldn’t be saying that if they saw you in a bikini
Person 3: You’re so beautiful!
Demon: They’re just saying that because they feel they have to.
For a long time I let that little demon sat on my shoulder fill my mind with negative stories, stories about how I was unworthy of love, how I was insignificant to everyone else and so much more.
I know I'm not alone, I know that most of us have some kind of little voice that puts us down and just to reassure you further it's actually a natural instinct we've still held on to since the cave man days. Me see another man, me eat man or man eats me. We used these natural instincts to judge whether we would eat or be eaten, now we use these instincts to compare ourselves...She's so much prettier than me, I have no chance.
I call my little voice the demon sat on my shoulder, I feel like giving him a persona makes it easier to imagine kicking him to the curb when I'm conquering these negative thoughts, but how can we achieve this? It takes time and practice, however, the first step to acknowledging him/her/it whatever you want to call it, is powerful within its self. The next time you hear these negative stories being whispered into your ear, notice them, stop the thought, take a big deep breath in and let out a long sigh. Let the thought go! If you can't manage to change the thought to a positive one just move on to a different subject, something completely unrelated, projects at home, what's for dinner, good films or boxsets you'd recommend, anything that's uplifting and will distract your mind.
If you can make the next step I really encourage you to Flip the Script which is something we're going to talk more about in our 5 day course that's coming up "Self Love Foundations: Believing in your beauty and worth" take the negative thought and flip it on it's head, think of the opposite the positive side of the thought.
As I said, it takes time, it takes practice and even years into my own self love journey I still struggle with my little demon whispering the negative stories to me, although now I have the tools to silent him a lot quicker. If you're ready to start believing in you then please come and join our course starting Monday 19th for just £9.99 I am going to be live with you everyday covering clarity, connection, choice, courage and ending on celebration! I cannot wait to see the ladies who join us blossom and I really hope you will be one of those.
Have a fabulous week, stay safe and remember our GRL PWR community is always here to support you if you need us.
With love & gratitude,
Ana Louise Bonasera
Ana Louise Bonasera, mum of 4 boys, girl power enthusiast.