I know I know, I'm always banging on about it but it is so important, in fact I believe it's the first step to truly accepting who you are and prepares you to begin your self love journey. Regaining some clarity on you.
Who you are, what you love, what makes you laugh, who you admire...etc. There are so many sources of content in this world telling you to be like someone else "lose weight - be happy" "exercise - be happy" "find love - be happy" "get a career - be happy" "go to university - be happy" so many different opinions from everyone else on what we "should" do to be happy but what about what we actually want from life in order to be happy? How about listening to our bodies needs and our hearts desires.
Life is so busy, trust me I have an understanding, it's so easy to lose yourself. When my twins were born my eldest was only 14 months and we were in hospital for over two weeks as Jude had suspected meningitis and was on antibiotics. Then when we were home all of a sudden I was on my own with three children under 15 months having just under gone serious surgery (c-section) I had family helping but I quickly went into what I call "survival mode" routine routine routine - that was the only way we were going to make it through. I remember washing those 28 bottles a day, swaddling them up at 9pm and bouncing them around the living room while watching some TV show on BBC Three looking for the best British hairdresser for a few hours while they had their colicy cries. Full on survival mode, but we made it through and it was definitely a necessity at the time, even though sometimes it's needed, sometimes we forget to pull ourselves out of it. We constantly put everyone else before our own needs that we forget to take care of ourselves.
Take a look and check if you're in survival mode, are you making time for you or are you just trying to make it through the day? I get it, the world is a weird place right now but I encourage you to just do a little digging and find something out about yourself that maybe you forgot or never really realised. I always suggest this but have a go at 16 personalities .com I find it fascinating and often go back and read my own personality.
It's time you start putting you first and appreciating your own self worth.
With love & gratitude,
Ana Louise Bonasera
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Ana Louise Bonasera, mum of 4 boys, girl power enthusiast.